THE FEAR FACTOR

by Michael Webb

Fear can have a very powerful effect on people. While fear may help people do amazing things or overcome large obstacles it can also be debilitating.

I have witnessed far too many relationships that are anchored in fear instead of love. Abusers know the power that fear can have on others and will often use fear to keep someone from leaving them.

Do any of these statements apply to your relationship?

* I don't want to break up because I will be lonely * I can't leave my boyfriend/girlfriend because I don't think they will be able to handle it and might do something crazy * If I leave he or she will just come after me * I can't support my family on my income alone * I don't want to complain because he/she will get into a rage * I'm not worthy of a blissful relationship - I deserve this abusive one

It is impossible for your relationship to be blissful (or even marginally happy) if you stay in it out of fear. Don't believe the lies that "no one else will love you like I love you" or "you'll be sorry if you leave me." Anyone who uses power and fear to keep a relationship together has very little love in him or her.

If you are the type of person who goes from one abusive, controlling relationship to another, find out why. Analyze why you are initially attracted to abusers (or perhaps you are attracting them) and stop going out with them. Refuse to stay in a mentally or physically abusive relationship even if you have fears (if the abuser agrees to go to counseling with you that is a different situation).

There are a lot of support groups (locally and online) who can help give you the courage to break away from relationships that are based on fear. You are a very special person. God loves you, I love you and you deserve a much better relationship.

Something to think about...

Please forward this article on to your friends and family if you think they would like it. The world needs more blissful relationships.

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About the Author: Michael Webb is Best-selling author, The RoMANtic's Guide: Hundreds of Creative Tips for a Lifetime of Love Founder, National Resurrect Romance Week (second week in August) Syndicated Columnist, 'The RoMANtic'
You can visit The RoMANtic's Guide online at TheRomantic.com

Michael Webb is also the author of:

1000 Questions for Couples

500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets

300 Creative Dates

The Romantic's Guide to Popping the Question

50 Secrets of Blissful Relationships

A Better Way To Date
 
   
 
   
 
   
 
   
 
   
 
   
 
   
 
   
 
   

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